Tuesday, November 15, 2016

10 Things I Don't Need in Welcoming a New Baby

Being a new parent is often overwhelming and exciting. Before the baby comes, we want to make sure that we're well prepared - financially, mentally and environmentally haha. But let's face it, not everyone can be financially and mentally well prepared all the time. So most of us will try our very best to be environmentally prepared for the baby.

Charlotte is very blessed with a lot of hand-me-downs so it really saves us a lot. Yet I thought that there're plenty more to prepare to welcome this little baby, who actually doesn't need so many things! If I could do it all over again, here are 10 things I wouldn't buy to welcome a new baby.

1. Sterilizer

My lactation consultant once told me that I don't have to sterilize the bottles everyday or after every use. Same goes to those pumping parts. All you need to do is to clean them throughly and let them air-dry. It's advisable to only strilize the bottles once a week. Or, if you still wanna sterilize it, just pour in some hot water and swirl it in the bottle before using. I bought this Little Bean Sterilizer cause it has an upper tray that I could sterilize my freemie. Also because it comes with a milk bottle warmer (kiam, I know). Which brings me to my second point.

2. Milk Bottle Warmer

This is quite useless if you're a lactating mother who feeds your child directly from the breast all the time. Even when Charlotte was with a nanny for a while, I didn't need to bring it to the nanny cause she would warm the milk the conventional way by placing the milk bottle that contains thawed milk in a cup of warm water for about 10 minutes  until you don't feel a temperature when you place the bottle on your palm as that's the right temperature of the milk for your baby. Sometimes she even thawed it until room temperate before feeding, which works fine as well. I did use it to warm up all Charlotte's frozen puree, though, when she started solids. Until one day I accidentally dropped it and it has a crack and cannot hold water anymore. Then I just reheat her puree by defrosting the puree in the fridge over night and then steam it the conventional way the next morning for 10 minutes.

3. Cot



If only I listened to one of my friends' advise earlier, I could really save on this cost. When Charlotte was able to roll over, especially in her sleep, she'd be awaken by herself when she hit herself on the panel.


Imagine this happening every. single. hour. throughout the night. RIP sleep.


Then when she was able to hold on the panel to stand up, we had to lower the mattress so she wouldn't trip over and fall.

We also removed one side of the panel so that it's easier for me to pick her up for mid night feeding. But this IKEA cot was not designed to be that way.


In January when she was 9 months old, we decided to get her a Queen size mattress so she could sleep on the floor. With a body so small and with pillows to baricade, she could still fall off her bed and it happens almost every week. Graceful, Charlotte. Graceful.

Her cot is now placed in another room that's intended for her.

We wanted to sell it off but I hold that thought cause... well, who knows, maybe we'll have another one in the future and it may come in handy?

The reason why I bought this cot was because I was convinced that I could use it for a very long time. When Charlotte has out grown the cot, I thought I could do some recreational work with it.

Like converting it into a study table for her! I like the idea but it's always easier said than done. We'll see.

4. Bouncer


The bouncer is useful BEFORE the baby learns how to roll over. This is useful because it's mobilazable. My cousin lent me the conventional one as shown below.


But Charlotte keeps falling down even when I put her in the "belt".

And there's no support to her head and neck so her head is always tilted to a side.

Smirking 😏😏😏

Judging me for watching TV lol.

So most of the time when I need to do something, I just place her in her cot. When I need to watch some tv shows, I just carry her cause that's all I wanted to do than to have her lying in the boucer staring at me with that judging look lol.

5. Baby Body Talc

Talcum dusting powder is commonly used to reduce rashes and diaper irritation in babies and infants. But this practice is dangerous as it can result in the inhalation of significant amounts of powder, causing acute or chronic lung irritation, known as talcosis.

But I'm sure you'll be given this as a gift during your baby shower or full moon celebration. Well, keep calm as here are 7 Suprising Uses For Baby Powder.

Dry Shampoo Your Hair. Extend a great blowout, enhance bohemian waves, or soak up shine by using our baby powder as a chemical- and talc-free dry shampoo. The arrowroot powder and cornstarch won’t strip your hair, leaving it fresh and voluminous even after an afternoon yoga session. Lift your hair and sprinkle powder underneath the section you’re styling. Gently rub it into your scalp to absorb excess oil. And, after a few short minutes, brush out any powder remaining on your strands.

Ready, Set, Makeup. Go ahead, leave your makeup bag behind and carry that chic clutch to your dinner date. Opt for a dusting powder made without talc, phthalates, parabens, synthetic fragrances, and dyes. Extend the staying power of your lipstick by dusting your lips before you apply your fave color. Then set your foundation to create a flawless finish.

After-Shave Alternative. Post shave, gently rub on baby powder to soothe and soften your skin.

Beat the heat. Use baby powder to absorb sweat and leave your skin soft and dry. Some people even recommend it as an alternative to deodorant! Apply it following a shower and you’ll be set for the day.

Get Fresh Kicks. Keep your shoes and feet feeling fresh, especially after taking them on a summer run. Sprinkle baby powder on your insoles, let it stand overnight, and dump it out in the morning for airy smelling shoes.

Magically Repel Sand. Leave the sand at the shore by sprinkling some baby powder over sand-covered kids to wick away excess moisture and easily brush off any traces of the beach.

Be a Cool Camper. Sprinkle baby powder over your sheets to keep them cool when you sleep. But what about when you move your “bed” outdoors? Enjoy a refreshing night camping under the stars by similarly dusting the interior of your sleeping bag with powder — a hot summer night won’t put a damper on your great (or backyard) adventure.

(Source from Honestly)

6. Stroller

We bought a stroller from taobao. The stroller was nice and all but it's very troublesome to get around. You have to take the elevator in the mall just to get from one floor to another. And since I'm out and about with Charlotte alone most of the time, it was quite difficult for me to carry a 10kg+ stroller around. It was even difficult enough just to get it out of the car.

But if you really need a decent (and affordable stroller), I would recommend you this.

The Seebaby QQ series. They're good for travelling as they're light-weighted (less than 5kg).

7. Kangaroo Hip Seat Carrier


Another reason why I despite the stroller is because I was introduced to the wonders of a carrier. I have long decided that attachment parenting is for me and a carrier is very much essential. But before I was introduced to the different type of carriers, the prices already pull me back. So when I saw this at the baby fair at the price of RM79, I bought it there and then.

Wrong move.

Though I have no issue carrying Charlotte in this Kangaroo Hip Seat Carrier, I have major issues carrying her in it when I was still teaching as a tutor cause it was difficult for me to sit down with it strapped on me.

If you think having a carrier is for you, my advise is to try them on before deciding on one as there're so many type of carriers out there. I've tried Wraps, Ring Slings, Pouch Slings and Buckle/Soft Structured Carriers. I'll be writing a review on all of them soon so stay tuned if you're interested to know the differences. There's a group on Facebook that allows parents to swap and exchange carriers but it's now a private group. But if you have friend who could lend you any carrier to try, please test out first before deciding which one suits you. It's advisable to get a carrier after your baby is born so you could try them on with your baby. You really don't have to rush in getting one. And trust me, even though it's kinda pricey, it's one of my best investments.

8. Baby Swaddle Sleeping Bag



The picture you see here is a happy baby being swaddled but you should know very well that this is just a marketing gimmick. Baby this big (assuming 3 to 5 months old) would already prefer having his hands and legs free for movements. Swaddling is no doubt an excellent tool for comforting babies especially during their newborn days because babies startle a lot. Swaddling helps to keep them calm. You can read more about swaddling HERE.

I swaddle Charlotte all the time during her newborn days.

It really calms her down and she tends to sleep longer.

But what I'm saying is, you don't have to buy a swaddle sleeping bag. Instead, get a swaddle blanket, which is like a bigger piece of cloth. Besides swaddling, you could also use it as a burp cloth, tummy time blanket, nursing cover, stroller cover or even a changing table cover when you're at a public baby room.


9. Loads of baby clothes


Disclaimer: Image taken from the internet. Not Charlotte's lolol.

Charlotte is really lucky to have a lot of hand-me-down clothes from her second cousins. And since she's out with me to work almost everyday, she only changes 2 outfits throughout the day - one for going out and one pajamas. And it really isn't that neccessary to buy clothes in all sizes given that there are options from 0-3 months, 3-6 months, so on and so forth. Some babies pack on weight fast and might be bursting 6-9 months old outfits at just 4 months old.

I change Charlotte's wardrobe every 3 to 4 months. She'd have 9 rompers (2 as extras just in case of emergency) and 7 pajamas. Now that her growth is not as rapid as before, she has 5 pair of outfits (shirt and pants), 3 dresses for going out and 5 pajamas (I don't change them everyday now. If it's clean, I'll let her wear again the next day). I know there are really a lot of pretty and cute outfit out there for kids. Just remember that they really don't need that many.

But do you know what you could never have enough? Handkerchief and towels lol. You'll know what I mean when you're a parent.

10. Expensive Toys

Really. Whatever age-appropriate stated on the box... is a lie. Your kids will be more interested in the wet wipes packet, keys, remote control, fragile decorations and your hair.

Thursday, November 10, 2016

Update on My New Diet Plan

Remember almost a month ago, I decided to start on a new diet plan by consuming less sugar?

After a month of trying, I'm ashamed to say that...

I failed miserably *crying face*

The first few days, I was really discipline with myself. I took only 1 cup of milo to kick start my day and that's it. I wouldn't drink another cup or have any sugary food throughout the entire day. Even when my husband offered to buy me my favourite drink, I rejected. I was feeling alright and was not craving for anything sweet. I drank plenty of water when I sense some craving creeping in.

Then the second week came. One day, I went to the cinema with the husband. After the show, we passed by Boat Noodles and I was soooooooooo tempted to get a cup of Ice Thai Milk Tea. And I did. I gave in to temptation after walking back and forth in front of the shop for, I don't know, 50 times? I had my first cup of Milo in the morning already. I told myself, you did well on the first week, no harm giving yourself a reward in advanced?

Ladies and gentlemen, and that's how everything else started to screw up.

The next day, I remember I was late for work and by noon, I was still busy with work but couldn't go out for lunch, so I had my second cup of milo. And the rest is history.

DETERMINATION Y U SO WEAK!?

The other day, I saw the cleaner refilling the coffee machine. So I took a look at the Milo Packaging.

This is the package the use to refill the machine. Take a closer look at the ingredients.

The first on the list is sugar! Which means, sugar is the MAIN ingredient of the drink! Not malt extract, but sugar!

I know that sugar, like drugs and alcohol, are addictive. The reason can be explained through Science and it was well explained HERE.

I weight myself this morning and...



I'm not cheating but I really am 62.9kg. But my weighting machine is low on battery so... :D

I lost 500g probably because I shared my dinner with Charlotte last night. Or I haven't drink water this morning. I'm pretty sure it's now back to 63.5kg fml.

I need motivation. And after some clicking, I found many.





All sources found from Mr. Google and these are result of a workout call BBG (Bikini Body Guide) created by Kayla Itsines. You've probably heard about it before cause this workout has been around for quite some time. And if they can do it, so can I right!? Right!? RIGHT!?

I'm not sure how I'm gonna start and go through this as I have so many things to juggle but hopefully I can start soon and bring myself some good news next month. Also, I will continue to cut down on my sugar intake. It might be a long battle but I know I need to do this for myself.

Maybe I should set one of these photos as my phone's wallpaper so I could look at it when my craving kicks in.


Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Charlotte's Meal (18 months old)

I've been meaning to document Charlotte's food journey but I'm not a very adventurous mom myself wtf. As in, there are still many things that I'm reluctant to let Charlotte eat. For examples, cakes or biscuits with cream, fast food, butter and sugar bun cause there's visible sugar on the bun wtf. Don't get me wrong, I've already given up the "No Salt and Sugar till 3 Years Old" rule. I've introduced desserts like cheese tart, cheesecake, chocolate raisin toast and etc. But still not feeling comfortable for her to eat certain food containing visible sugar and cream. I've also let her try various savory food, as long as they're not too salty and oily.


Since Charlotte is not a fan of porridge, she's been eating rice since she turned One. I used to feed her rice with soup. Now that she has got more teeth and is better at handling chunky food, I try to offer her variety of dishes, though I might still need to cut some using a food scissor.

The things that I cook are not fancy at all because, really, ain't nobody got time for that. But they're always consist of carbohydrates (rice/ noodles), fibre (vegetables) and protein (meat/ egg). The pictures you're about to see are also not Pinterest or Instagram ready as my main focus was to get them (the food) all down to her tum tum. Plus, she doesn't know how to judge based on how the food look. Yet. But I hope it gives you some idea of what to feed your toddler. Of course there're plenty of other mummies out there who are doing/ cooking better than me. But the main objective of this post is to tell any full-time working mom who is as busy as me, that it's ok to feed your toddler the same food you're eating, as long as it's a balanced diet. And it's also ok even if you're feeding them canned food. Just try not to do it too often, though.

Below are some of the food I've cooked recently for our little family.

1. Stir-fried tomato and scrambled eggs + Stir-fried Broccoli.

The left one is for mama and the right one is for Charlotte. As you can see, I've already cut her dishes into smaller chunks. From now onward, you will see Charlotte's meal in the IKEA KALAS Bowl.

2. Fried Egg with Toufu + Stir-fried Romaine Lettuce

3. Steamed Egg with Taufu and Minced Pork + Stir-fried Broccoli

4. Braised Pork and Potatoes with Fermented Beans + Stir-fried romaine lettuce

5. Four C's Soup (Chayote, Carrot, Corn and Chicken hahahaha)

6. Steamed Luncheon Meat + Stir-fried Romaine Lettuce. I sometimes fry the luncheon meat as well but when I'm lazy, just steam saje la.

7. Fried Rice with Stir-fried Romaine Lettuce. I cook the stir-fried Romaine Lettuce separately because I wanted the gravy from the stir-fried Romaine Lettuce to soften the fried rice. But if I do not have enough time, plain fried rice it is. Charlotte will still be able to eat, just might take a little longer time to swallow.

8. Stir-fried Romaine Lettuce + Fried Egg with Onions

9. Stir-fried Meehun with egg and vege.

10. Garlic Bread with Cheese. I prepare this for her as breakfast.
This is mama's portion, though, so don't worry, I didn't stuff her hahahaha.

Sometimes when I get caught up with work and am not able to cook, we'd eat out.

At a mixed rice stall. We'd usually share food. I'm so glad that we can finally share food, actually. I can now go back to eating half a bowl of rice haha.

From the list above, you could probably tell that I (a) use almost the same vege (romaine lettuce) all the time and (b) use a lot of eggs lol. I like to use romaine lettuce because it's the easiest vege to handle. Just rinse with water and it's ready to be cooked. I do give her other kind of vege, too, such as spinach, zucchini, cabbage and radish. I like to use eggs because it's the cheapest protein, and also my favourite lol.

And if you think that Charlotte eats a lot from the portion you see shown in the picture, yes, she does. But I feel alright with that because I never let her munch on snacks as I think snacks are empty calories and unhealthy. She eats 3 proper meals a day and she's active, so that's really fine with me. And if you've seen video of Foodie Xiao Man, then you'd know that the portion of Charlotte's food is just normal. Besides, sometimes she might not even finishes her food when she's full. So ya, as a mother, I know I'm giving her enough food. I also know when to stop her from eating too much, which I don't really need to do, actually, cause she would just push it away when she has had enough.

The dishes above are actually really easy to cook and can be prepared within 30 minutes (Thanks to the husband who would usually help me cook the rice when he's taking a break from work and rest at home. Saves me half of the cooking time). I don't really like to do complicated, time consuming dishes cause most the time, there's only both of us at home. If you're wondering what does Charlotte do when I'm cooking...

There. She just sits right outside of the kitchen waiting for me.

Here she's talking to herself haha.

Sometimes she stands. And whine haha. "Mama, faster!"

And sometimes, she grabs a new toy (in this case it's my MIL's pot) and play by herself.

Honestly, I feel guilty most of the time. But mama's gotta do what mama's gotta do to keep both of us well-fed.

If you're a full-time working mom like me, and you need to take care of your little one yourself, I want to let you know that you're not alone. And it's possible to care for your little one with minimal effort (in cooking). Just know that you're already trying your best.