Confessions of a mom

Before my husband and I got married, I told him that one of my goals, if I ever mother a child, is to be a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) for at least 3 years. I want to be able to take care of my child wholeheartedly. I wanna give what I couldn't have enough when I was little- companionship.

Does this says enough how much I was ready to become a mom?

Unfortunately, you don't plan life ahead. Life is tough and I have the responsibility to bring some bacon home. Even though I'm not a SAHM, I'm glad that I'm still able to bring my daughter wherever I go, even when I'm working.

That being said, I'm still not the perfect mother. There're days I feel unmotivated or simply lazy. Below are my confession as a mom.

1. I don't clean her toys diligently.
I remember during her newborn days, I'd wash and sterilize EVERYTHING. When she first discovered that her fingers are yummy, I wipe her hands almost every time after she takes out from her mouth. One fine day, I remember something about bacteria in our stomach. That there're good bacteria and bad bacteria. And that we need an amount of bad bacteria to allow the good bacteria to have a chance to fight and toughen up hahaha. So when she starts to play around with her toys (read: put EVERYTHING into her mouth), I let her be. I might only clean them once a week. Or fortweekly. I mean, she even swallowed water from the swimming pool before and she's still fine. So, why panick? 🙈🙈🙈

2. I'm constantly on my phone.
Yes, I'm guilty of that. Now that she's able to play on her own, I get to spend more time on the phone. To be honest, 65% of the time I spent on my phone is because of work. I have the privilege to be able to work on a mobile device. I do feel bad sometimes, especially when I'm done on my phone and look up to see that she has already crawled towards me waiting for my attention. I do make an effort to spend time reading and singing to her everyday. Or take a walk around the swimming pool area if we're home early and if the weather is fine. I'm trying my best.

3. I only choose the best photos to be posted on social media.
I mean, c'mon, who doesn't do that? But to be fair, Charlotte does has her down time. Here's the proof.

4. I secretly compare Charlotte to other kids.
I try not to do it too often cause it's unhealthy but I secretly feel happy when Charlotte reach a certain milestone earlier than other kids around her age. For example, growing teeth, gain weight, or even standing up on her own! I cheer a little lot lol.

5. I wipe when I think about her leaving me for another man wtf.
I know. It's a long way to go. I'm a drama mama.

6. I use Charlotte as an excuse to leave early.
Oh I'm sorry I have to leave now. She's getting agitated. It's her bed time soon (o"o) Super good unoffensive excuse huh?


So there you go. My Mom Confessions.

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Breast Milk Lotion

I'm a normal yield mom. I let Charlotte direct latch all the time and currently only pump once every morning. I yield an average of 4oz after pumping for half an hour every day. Sometimes lesser sometimes more.

People often question why do I still pump since I'm not giving her the bottle. Well, I plan to at least breastfeed Charlotte for one year. And since milk is her main food intake, I wanna make sure that she has sufficient milk just in case of any emergency.

Like last month, I was diagnosed with dengue. I thought the expressed breast milk will finally serve it's purpose. But I pushed myself to continue breastfeeding until I got well.

Anyway, those expressed milk eventually filled up all the space in my freezer. So I donated.

Here are 17 packets of expressed milk dated August to November. About 8oz each. I donated them to a confinement center that supports breastfeeding. This is the second time I donate them.

I kept at least 20 packets with me. But I know soon I might give away again.

Then one day I came across this Breast milk lotion recipe. Well, basically it's to turn your breast milk into lotion la.

New research has proven that breast milk, made into a lotion, is the latest alternative form of treatment for eczema, psoriasis, sunburns and itchy dry skin. Although the idea of rubbing breast milk on your skin may seem a bit unconventional and eerie  (according to the husband), it is proven to be a safe and sometime superior treatment to other medicinal options. The antibodies found in breast milk will help aid the infection.

To make breast milk lotion, the ingredients you need are:

- 3 ounces of breastmilk
- 3 ounces oil (grapeseed oil for sensitive skin)
- 1 tablespoon of beeswax
- a few drops of Vitamin E oil (optional)

I used 6 oz of frozen breastmilk so just double everything else will do.

Below are the steps:

1. Heat grapeseed oil in low heat temperature to melt the beeswax.
2. After the beeswax is melted, slowly pour in the room temperature breastmilk and Vitamin E oil and whisk rapidly until thickens.
3. Pour into shallow jars or lotion tubs. It will continue to thicken as it cools. Refrigerate and use for up to 3 months.

Done! Easy isn't it?

Here's mine!

Sorry no picture of the process cause erm I was busy whisking and doubting the recipe, thinking if it really works cause milk and oil are immiscible liquids lol. It took some time and eventually mixed well and thicken so don't worry k!

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The Giving Plate

Pinterest is my new best friend!

Ever since I've befriended with Pinterest, I've found numerous ideas to occupy Charlotte, made DIY toys, and collected creative ideas to make gifts for various occasions.

I'm meeting my best friend, Peggy, at her new home today. Since we're bffs and have known each others for 19 years, I seriously thought of going empty handed lol. But then I came across this DIY gift on Pinterest and it's called The Giving Plate, and I immediately like the idea of it.

Here is how it looks like.


It's personal and still practically useful!

So I decided to make one.

The things you need to make The Giving Plate are

❤ a plate
❤ porcelain painters (I used black and pink)
❤ an oven

I got the plate from Robinson and the porcelain painters from Art Friend at The Garden's Mall. The plate cost RM32 and the painters cost RM15 each.

Next, copy those words onto the plate! But my writings were too big so I cut short a few lines.

After you're done, pop it into the oven.



The instruction given was on the painter.



160 °C for 30 minutes.

While waiting for the ink to be permanently sealed on the plate, quickly attend to a crying baby. If you don't have a crying baby waiting for you, go on and do whatever pleases you lol.

After 30 minutes...



Tadaaa~~~~!

If only my writing can be a bit more creative and nicer but NOT BAD HO!!!

Hope this gives you an idea of what to give if you have a house warming invitation next time.

Now that I have 2 porcelain painters, draw on ALL the plates in the house!

Oh wait, baby's crying again...

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11 facts about me

Hello! If you're reading this, let me take a moment to say thankQ for stopping by and

Welcome!

The reason I started this blog is because I wanna pen down crazy fun things I do as a new mom. I know there are other ways like writing a diary or putting them on social media. But let's just say that, I find it easier typing than print cut and paste pictures onto a book lol. And blogging allows me to edit numerous times whereas keeping a diary might result in damaging the environment cause I might get fed up with the photo arrangements in my diary and then tear the page and waste more paper and glue and ink and the list goes on (read: excuse for being lazy).

Anyway! For  you to know me a lil better, here are 11 facts about me :)

1. Dolphin is not my last name.
Obviously lol! Why name myself dolphin? Well, simply because I love swimming and I love dolphin. One of my dreams is to swim with dolphins in the big blue sea. Dolphins are also known to be smart mammals, too. So, erm I would like to (buay paiseh-ly) associate myself as one of a kind *ahem*.

2. I'm not a new blogger. 

I actually started blogging in 2004, as introduced by my best friend, Sereen. I blogged for 9 years and stopped for some personal reason in 2013.

But it's ok! Imma start anew!

3. My dream was to be a performer.

I love to perform. Be it singing, acting or dancing. I started  practicing my signature when I was still in primary school, thinking I might one day be someone famous and have people coming up to me asking me for autograph. I'm not kidding. Don't laugh.

4. I've been tutoring for 10 years.

Yes. 10 whole freaking years! Teaching is my forte, though it's something I never thought I would be doing in the long run. I've always thought of doing something else throughout the 10 years but always feel too comfortable to leave the education line. Now I've make peace with it and have found joy and great accomplishment in teaching.

5. I'm a fierce breastfeeding mom and a baby-wearer.

Of course I get questioned many times. Later your baby won't want anybody but you. Later she'll be so sticky to you it'll be hard for you to have your own time to do your own thing. Bla bla bla yada yada yada. Do your homework before you come questioning me about my parenting method. Or else don't freak out if I give you one big slap.

6. I love languages.

I was raised speaking Mandarin, Cantonese, English and BM. I think that gives me the advantage of understanding a new language easily. I personally went on to study Korean and Japanese. The next language I would love to learn is sign language. 

7. I'm an ultimate egg lover!

I MUST have satu biji telur in my nasi lemak. I love anything that says egg! Egg tart, steamed egg, egg tofu, salted egg, fried egg, baked egg... I can survive on eggs alone. 

8. I enjoy motherhood ❤
Even if it means that you can't go for peaceful one minute toilet break or have to swallow most of your food without chewing, resulting in constipation wtf. But it's been fun! To see how your own baby grow and hit those little milestones. To see how a helpless little baby who can't turn over can now climb moutains and cross rivers just to climb to you. It's a glorious feeling!

9. I love to eat.

As much as I don't like to admit being overweight, I can't help not love eating! Being able to enjoy food is one of the blessings in life. So screw whatever diet plan there is. Oh wait! I do have a diet plan. That's to make more cupcakes for people around me wakakakaka.

10. I love to travel.

I mean seriously, if health, wealth and time is not an issue, who doesn't?

11. I love to celebrate birthdays!

I don't know about you but I feel extra special on my birthday. I love to receive gifts *ahem ahem*, I like to eat cakes, I like to get together with my favourite people and feel loved hahaha. We can practice that on any other given days, but on your own birthday, it's just different. So I'll also try my very best to make others feel more special on their birthdays. It's a happy feeling to celebrate birthdays :)

So there you go! Hope you enjoy reading and get to know me better.

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